China’s Sissy Problem—and Ours

China’s Sissy Problem—and Ours. By John Mac Ghlionn.

The Chinese Communist Party (CCP) has made a concerted effort to banish so-called “sissy men” from society. “Morally flawed” men are no longer welcome. Men, we’re told, should look a certain way — no makeup, no high heels. Moreover, they should have resilience and a desire to seek meaningful employment. …

The United States could learn a thing or two from those tyrants in Beijing. Sissy men are a scourge; they bring nothing of benefit to broader society. Sissy men, be gone.

It’s important to make clear that this piece is not an attack on homosexual men; it’s an attack on sissies. There is a difference between the two. In his latest special, Sorry, Louis CK finished the show with a joke about American men. Today, according to Louis, gay men carry themselves with an air of authority, purpose, and meaning. They keep themselves in good shape and dress appropriately. Straight men, on the other hand, have become notably weaker, both physically and mentally; many of them lack the characteristics that we would have associated with previous generations of men. They are sloppy, weak-willed, and overly apologetic. They dress terribly. At the end of the joke, which is much funnier than I just made it sound, the audience applauded and let out a collective roar. Why? Because Louis’s joke resonated. …

For generations, the sissy has been a frowned-upon character in American life. Only recently it has become a respected, even institutionalized lifestyle. California’s Silicon-Valley stereotype of the “soy boy”, a demasculinized consumer of a meatless, synthetic diet, is now national. …

Being a soy boy or a sissy man has little, if anything, to do with sexual orientation. Instead, it has to do with specific qualities that many of us admire in men (as well as women): Courage, bravery, purpose, resilience, a strength of character, grit, etc.

What I am advocating for is the type of man who is willing to live a life of meaning, to hold a steady job, marry, settle down, and raise a family. To set a good example as a father, a neighbor, and as a member of broader society.

How did this happen?

What kind of social transformation has made this too much, or too little, to ask for?

To be a father — more specifically, a good father — one must be present, physically and emotionally.

However, across the country, according to a Pew Research Center study, rates of children living in single-parent households have never been higher. In fact, the U.S. now boasts the highest rate of children living in single-parent households in the world. As the study notes, “3% of children in China, 4% of children in Nigeria, and 5% of children in India live in single-parent households.” In the U.S., meanwhile, the rate is a staggering 23 percent. At least 80 percent of the country’s single-parent homes are headed by single mothers. ..

To compound matters, fewer young men are entering the labor force. … What are America’s young men doing instead? Playing video games. … Maybe this is why China, the country orchestrating the “attack” on sissy men, is simultaneously cracking down on video games. …

It’s true that video games, like games in general, are not themselves the problem; they are symptomatic of a deeper malaise concerning our culture of immaturity. Doubtless, it’s much easier to stay at home, sit on one’s posterior, stuff one’s face (and plenty of Americans are certainly doing that), and play video games than it is to set an alarm for sunrise, get up, and put in an honest day’s work.

But ultimately, boys are growing old without growing up, and failing to become true men in the process, because our dominant culture now celebrates and rewards their immaturity, and even punishes and alienates those who resist.

Work has never been inherently fun or fulfilling for most men throughout history. The obligation to shoulder the yoke was usually offset by a certain countervailing promise of respect for masculine virtues and a pride of place for the father in society.

Feminists smeared masculinity, and also won the right to end a marriage and take all the kids and most of the money whenever they felt like it. With most of the rewards for standing up and being a man gone or hanging by a thread at the whim of a woman, really what is the point?

Besides, real men are potentially dangerous to the ruling class. How many revolutions have been led by soy boys?