The One Act of Heroism We Never Acknowledge Is the Nuclear Family

The One Act of Heroism We Never Acknowledge Is the Nuclear Family, by Kira Davis.

In these days of coronavirus, the word “hero” has been used non-stop to describe doctors and nurses working on the “front lines”. We’re even calling our teachers heroes. …

It is far more difficult for some starry-eyed, millennial opinion writer with a brand new thesaurus and a gig at The New York Times to look at a father schlepping back and forth to his office job every day and see a hero. That writer probably sees a bored man, or a defeated man, or an uninteresting man who doesn’t have an immediate impact on those around him….certainly not the way a doctor does. His heroism is invisible, because you can’t make a commercial out of it. His service, his bravery is spread out over an entire lifetime, not just one crisis.

The commitment to the nuclear family is one of the most heroic acts in our culture and yet it remains invisible…to the media, to celebrities making thirsty social media posts thanking the “heroes” four times a day, to our elected officials.

In fact, the traditional family seems to only ever be insulted and derided in pop culture these days. I suppose that is because so many of our coastal reporters and celebrities don’t have families of their own. They don’t know how to quantify the sacrifice it takes to raise a family and maintain a marriage. It just looks like a relic of a different era to them, instead of the essential foundation of a healthy and prosperous society. …

There is no “great society” without the nuclear family (one that includes children or not). Statistically, it is one of the brightest indicators of success and I’m sorry that we live in such fragile times that to even suggest the nuclear model is the most effective model sends scores of wounded and battle-weary mothers and divorcees into defensive rages. I’m sick of always having to qualify common sense arguments by first having to appease and acknowledge all of the people who have had very different experiences.