Boys actually need more masculinity, by Suzanne Venker.
Men and boys aren’t suffering from an overdose of masculinity; they’re suffering from a dearth of masculinity.
How could it be the former when millions of boys come from fatherless homes and when most boys are products of public schools, where only 23% of teachers are male? Single motherhood has skyrocketed over the last five decades — a whopping 40% increase. Who do we suppose is encouraging boys to “pursue the pinnacle of masculinity”? Their mothers and their female teachers?
Hardly. In schools, girls have the upper hand while boys go along for the ride. Their interests and their innate aggression were stifled the moment we got rid of recess and told boys to sit still and read books centered on women and girls. At home, boys of single mothers are largely responsible for themselves, which is why so many get into trouble. To the extent that single mothers are home, they may be very good at mothering. But they can’t be a father.
Indeed, father absence in America is rampant, and it’s the cause of almost every social ill our country faces. “Children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime; nine times more likely to drop out of schools and twenty times more likely to end up in prison. They are more likely to have behavioral problems, or run away from home, or become teenage parents themselves. And the foundations of our community are weaker because of it,” noted Barack Obama said in 2008 while running for president.
Fathers are absolutely critical to the well-being of children, boys in particular. A boy with a present and engaged father will have fewer emotional and behavioral problems and better academic and long-term success. His aggression will be channeled in a meaningful and productive way.
You know it’s PC nonsense because the media is so one-sided:
But the media is totally silent on this — they lack the courage to tell the truth about single-parent families. Just last week, CBS News jumped on the anti-male (disguised as “helping” males) bandwagon by asking the question, “Is there a better way to raise boys to avoid toxic masculinity?” The 23-minute video, which is accompanied by three ancillary videos, accuses parents and society of raising toxic males by encouraging them to be controlling and even violent. …
“Toxic masculinity” is a PC fantasy:
If anything’s toxic, we are. It is we who set our boys up to fail, with our insistence they will do fine without fathers and that schools don’t need to cater to boys’ needs. Change just those two things, and boys will thrive.
This graphic omits life expectancy. People in rich countries have greater life expectancy, which says something about the sort of groups whose members live longer.