The Elusive American Husband

The Elusive American Husband, by Suzanne Venker.

According to a new study from researchers at Cornell University, who examined data on actual recent marriages, … American men are no longer educated enough or rich enough to be suitable for marriage.

This is exactly what we should have expected to happen. For the past forty years, women have been demanding their relationships with men be free of traditional sex roles. Women said they can do everything themselves and “don’t need a man.” They wanted to lead and to be their own heroes. In exchange, they wanted men to be more like women: soft and nurturing and flexible.

Men listened and responded accordingly. They took a step back to accommodate women’s demands and as a result are no longer providers and protectors. They did exactly what women asked of them.

If traditional sex roles were truly passé, as the culture has insisted for years, women would have no problem finding a husband. If it didn’t matter which sex is richer or more educated, women would be perfectly happy in the provider role and would marry any one of the countless men of lesser status who are clearly and readily available.

But they aren’t doing that. And many of the women who are doing it are miserable. …

Political correctness versus reality. Which wins? In the long term, there is a certain inevitability …

It would appear we changed the rules, and the new rules don’t work.

That’s because we ignored the reality of male and female nature. Men are literally made to provide, and women are made to nurture. Both are in our DNA and become glaringly obvious once it’s time to settle down with a family. Trying to yank these characteristics out of us is an exercise in futility.