Help! It’s Annoying When My Hypersensitive LGBTQ Friends Make Fun of My “Vanilla” Sex Life.

Help! It’s Annoying When My Hypersensitive LGBTQ Friends Make Fun of My “Vanilla” Sex Life. By Daniel Ortberg.

I live in a city with a large amount of LGBTQ and poly and kinky folks. Many are my friends. I am a white, married, heterosexual, cisgender person. While I try to be a good ally, I have noticed that many of the people I try to support cut me absolutely no slack when it comes to accidental faux pas. For example, when I referred to a drag queen as she, my friends screamed at me, saying that by using she I was being a rude bigot. …

I am often made fun of for being “vanilla,” and asked why my significant other and I are monogamous when we should know that humans are not supposed to be. We do not judge people for their lives, so why are we being judged? I am not the only person who has expressed this frustration, and I am getting close to my breaking point. I want to tell people that if they don’t want me as an ally, I am happy to stay home on their various Pride days and do my laundry, and to stop trying to change my Midwestern relatives’ actually bigoted views.