When Men Lose, Women Lose Too

When Men Lose, Women Lose Too, by Suzanne Venker.

Tucker’s opening monologue of his final “Men in America” episode is pretty good:

My husband and I have a college-bound daughter and a son who has just begun high school. Like most parents, we want our children to get an education, to find work they enjoy, and to get married and have families of their own. Now, let’s flesh out what’s likely to happen given the culture we live in today.

Both our son and our daughter are A students. Our daughter was recently awarded a full scholarship to a private co-ed institution, and being a girl didn’t hurt. There is boundless support and camaraderie today for women and girls. But our son, despite being a good student, may very well be penalized for being a white male. We have friends with sons to whom this has already happened.

Either way, women becoming more successful than men is nothing to celebrate. What do you think happens to relationships in which the men flounder but the women don’t? They end up in the trash — that’s what happens.

Let me tell you about Lynn. Lynn has a college degree but married a man who does not. He was a retail store manager when they met but fancied himself a professional race car driver and snowboarder.

Lynn has worked full-time, nonstop for the 14 years they’ve been together. (They’ve been married for eight of those years and have two children together.) Her husband has worked far less consistently and with bouts of unemployment. He does, on occasion, take care of the children while Lynn works; but Lynn has found the overall marital dynamic to be nothing short of a nightmare.

Her respect and sexual desire for her husband has waned considerably, for one thing; and their current arrangement is not what she envisioned for them. It happened solely as a result of her husband’s retreat from the professional world. …

The smarter and richer women are, they smarter and richer they want their man to be. But men are in the process of becoming less smart and less rich. This does not bode well for the future of love, families and society.

As for Lynn, you might wonder why she married her husband in the first place. But that’s my point: At the rate we’re going, more and more women will have no other alternative but to marry a man like him.

Either that or be smart, rich, and alone with a house full of cats.