Our friendships are shattering

Our friendships are shattering, by Campbell Markham.

My heart aches. Friendships everywhere are shattering.

Tonight I spoke to some dear friends. One described how his parents confronted him over the marriage issue. They had read one of my articles and asked: “Is this what you believe?”

The other said that her sister in Brazil, and a long-time friend in Mexico, are angry for her Christian beliefs about marriage: “LGBT people are born that way, but you choose to be a Christian!”

Today my daughter described a group chat where friends rage against Christians for their convictions about LGBT issues. It is excruciating for her.

A lady in my church told me how angry her husband is about these things, and she can no longer talk about her faith at home.

A man in our church community thinks of leaving us. He is loved, but he has a different view about marriage and feels that he can’t stay.

These are five drops in an ocean of broken relationships, and every drop is bitter.

It doesn’t matter how often we say that we don’t hate anyone, and that we can disagree without hating. It doesn’t matter how often we show by our actions that we love and don’t hate.

Australia has made up its mind: if you won’t accept the LGBT program, then you are hateful and you deserve to be put in your place. Old and precious friendships lie wrecked.

And here’s another thing. Christians are no longer being left alone with their beliefs. We are now asked about them; people want to know. “What do you think about marriage?” We must make our beliefs known, and be treated accordingly.

It’s going to get a lot worse. Opinion in our society is accelerating, it is becoming more intense, more polarised. Disagreement is felt instinctively to equate with hatred and unreasonable bigotry, and a corresponding outrage erupts. …

Jesus said that he would divide humanity, and now we live that. And the LGBT movement has apparently become the touchstone for this division.

Let me explain what I mean.

Jesus’ total plan for sex and marriage and family is distinct and unambiguous: “A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate” (Mat 19:5-6).

LGBT sex, marriage, and family ethics flatly contradict Jesus’ plan. To be a Christian, therefore, is necessarily to stand distinctly against LGBT ethics.