‘Toxic environment’ for sons accused of campus sex offenses turns mothers into militants

‘Toxic environment’ for sons accused of campus sex offenses turns mothers into militants, by Fred Barbash.

It was her son, Caleb Warner, calling to tell her he had heard from a dean at the University of North Dakota in Grand Forks. A woman with whom he had had a short sexual relationship, the dean told him, had accused him of sexual misconduct, of nonconsensual sex, that she alleged had occurred on the night of Dec. 13, 2009.

The charge was filed after the winter break in January 2010, his mother said, after he had “made it clear to her that he was not interested in having a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.” Then out of the blue this notice arrives, with its intimidating legal language. …

Among her compatriots at FACE [Families Advocating for Campus Equality], there’s Judith Grossman, an attorney, whose son, she writes on the site, was accused by a woman “more than two years after the breakup of their relationship.” …

Like Warner-Seefeld’s story, [Alice True’s], as recounted on her site, began “when the phone rang late one night. ‘Don’t worry mom, I’m fine but I’ve been taken out of my dorm room and moved elsewhere. … A girl and I had sex a few weeks ago … she filed a complaint against me. … She agreed to have sex, I have it in writing. … I don’t know why she filed. Also Mom, I’m on suicide watch.’”

“Well,” writes True, “I slowly learned over the months, that the college would do nothing to help my son through their Kafkaesque college investigation and hearing process. But the college would do everything and more to help the girl in all ways possible at all times. When we asked to see what the charges were or other pertinent questions we were met with no comment or you have to figure that out for yourself.”

The feminist definition of “rape”, which is gaining acceptance in PC circles, is any sex a woman later regrets. Even years later. (Does that apply to men too? I mean, who hasn’t been “raped”?)

“There’s a sense of powerlessness, and it’s an accurate sense of powerlessness particularly at private schools. People have no idea how few rights you have, especially at private universities. … And they think ‘they can really do this? They can ruin my child’s future and there’s nothing we can do about it.’ It’s extremely isolating.”

Funny it’s become a news story in a lefty newspaper only when the mums are hurt.